Men Who Take Baths

 

Conversations from a bubble bath about masculinity in a changing world — and what that means for feminism.

Men Who Take Baths is produced by Girls Who Say Fuck and features photography by Jah Grey. We put 15 men in bubble baths and asked the same sequence of questions:  


1. What does “being a man” mean to you?

2. What do you think when you hear the term “toxic masculinity”?

3. How are you navigating being a man in our changing world?

4. What is the biggest challenge facing gender equality in 2019?

5. How can women include men in the feminist movement?

6. How can we—as a society—raise boys into men who view women as equal?

7. What in your life has had a profound impact on the way you behave today?

8. How do you speak to other men in your life about women?

9. Why did you say yes to doing this?

 
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How are you navigating being a man in our changing world?
Listening to the women in my life.
I have a lot of female friends who are really incredible. So just listening to women, and not necessarily about feminist issues but just listening to them, in general. I’m getting some really great advice. Feminine energy is more intuitive and I’ve been trying to get in touch with intuition and trusting life.
I’m at a real odds with how I’m navigating being a man, to be honest. Sometimes I do feel like “the man,” in that traditional sense, and sometimes, I think the world kind of demands that of us. But we don’t like to be upfront about it in our culture. It’s like, you want me to “be a man” but you also want me to do all this other stuff.

Can you give me an example?

In a relationship.

You want me to make a decision—do this and do that—you want me to “be a man,” but you also want me to be soft and gentle and emotional. The reality is that sometimes what comes along with that isn’t what everybody actually wants. That’s another problem. With the rejection of certain values, we don’t really have anything to replace them with. 

In terms of my own self and “being a man,” I’ve been exploring my sexuality a lot the past five years, and for my whole life to be honest. I don’t identify with anything. I used to say I was straight but I try to avoid that. I really feel strongly that the future is pretty genderless.

I think trans culture is going to be a huge part of pushing things forward. I feel like those voices are super important because they have an incredible perspective that no one could possibly understand. I don’t think we have even come close to embracing that in the mainstream or even in underground culture. That’s probably a key, I think, in gender equality. 

- Mitch Reed

 
 
 
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What is the biggest challenge facing gender equality in 2019?
The danger of getting into the semantics.
I think a lot of places are facing election years and there are real dangers in some of the ways that politics are looking at LGBTQ people, women, and trans folk. We’re looking at a return to policies that are archaic and we think that sitting online talking to each other is the best way to activate and make a change. We’re seeing, albeit slowly, that despite the yelling, things aren’t changing. 

There is a strange furor around the word “feminism” that I don’t really understand. It’s just a word. It doesn’t imply an action. Are you hash-tagging things on Twitter and then being like, ‘Oh my god, I’m a feminist, I’m doing something’ or are you the person actually stepping in when you see someone being treated poorly? Labels are secondary to safety and security and things you do that actually impact people’s lives. 

- Matt Hyams

 
 
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What do you think when you hear the term "toxic masculinity"?
When people say toxic masculinity, I think they’re just coming up with another word for patriarchy. And, to me, when we’re talking about a group that has been violently dominant in our history, we can’t adopt a name for that behaviour that doesn’t call them out specifically because then we’re doing a disservice to the people who have been victimized by those acts. Just like we’d be doing a disservice to eliminate the phrase ‘white supremacy’ because it speaks to what has happened. Patriarchy speaks to what men have done so I don’t think it would make sense to get rid of patriarchy or toxic masculinity or however you want to bag it. We need to make it about naming men.

So, when you hear ‘feminism,’ what does that word mean to you? 

I would have the same logic around the word feminism, that a historically subjugated group should be finding a collective identity and looking for power in that collective identity, and I think naming that collective world view is part of that. I completely agree with the existence of the word feminism, and it’s obviously not something that just women can be, of course, men can be feminists too.

Is awareness a form of advocacy?
To an extent.
I think we’re starting to reach a critical mass of awareness. We’re starting to get to a place where conversations like this will start to lack meaning simply because they’re not being followed with significant transformative action on the part of the people. I think that any classic revolutionary would look at what’s happening in the west and say that we’re edging ever so close to a lot of hot air and lack of action.

How can women include men in the feminist movement?
I feel like when that question is raised, it’s coming from a place that’s not completely supporting women. I don’t believe in the supremacy of anyone. I don’t think we should have an anti-man movement—and I don’t think that’s what reasonable feminists are looking for either. This question of men not being included really boils down to a patriarchal system. There is an immense amount of self-critique and work that has to be done as a society to re-understand the way we understand society. Until that happens, there is going to be a lot of anger and defensiveness, and primarily a lot of fear, from all parties. Part of this question about gender really relates back to capitalism. It relates back to the plight of the individual. Therefore, we’re incapable, as groups of people, of truly being self-critical and opening up in a real way because we’re so focused on our conquest.

What you’re saying makes it seem like this behaviour is embedded in us; how is change possible?  
I think it’s important not to say it’s embedded in us but it’s deeply embedded in the institutions of programming and the way that has been orchestrated to create this. I don’t think it’s embedded in us in a biological or spiritual way to be like this. If we’re divided, it very much benefits politics and governments, it benefits our ability to be controlled, it benefits our ability to fit in these templates and boxes and genders.
What can equality look like? 
I don’t know. I think that the irony of us needing to come together is that it requires going deeply inside yourself.

- Matthew Progress

 
 
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What is the biggest challenge facing gender equality in 2019?
The first thing that comes to mind is the government.
If you really think about it and look into LGBTQ history, especially when it comes to trans, drag queens and cross-dressers, back into even the 1800s, there is a repetition. As soon as the trans and non-binary community starts finding their strength, their motivation, their voice, and the support that gives them a platform, the government steps in to take us down from the knees and shut us all up. There is nothing allowed outside the boundary of male and female.

When I say the government is the biggest challenge, there are examples. When there are attacks on the trans and non-binary community, the government next to never says it’s a hate crime. Also, we’re often being identified incorrectly. Those things are only giving people who are non-accepting of us the power to keep mistreating us like we’re nothing; garbage, disposable. 

What in your life has had a profound impact on the way you behave? 

Accepting me. Loving me.
I came out as a lesbian when I was 16. I came out as a trans man for the first time when I was 18 to my cousin who begged me not to, so I didn’t. He was the only person close to me at the time. I didn’t have a close relationship with my mother or my sister. When I was 26, I finally went to my mom and she said she always thought I was trans. Then I just came flying out like a fucking butterfly!

In these last three years I have gone through a series of transitions, and not just as a biological female to a male, but also seeing me, loving me, and allowing me to express myself in any way I fucking please.

Don’t allow your body to bully your mind and don’t allow your mind to neglect your body. I was always beating myself up that I wasn’t born in the body that I wish I was born into. Today, I don’t say that. I love my body. I express it in every way. I’m not ashamed. And I try to project that to others in the community that it’s okay to love your body. It wasn’t your fault. Don’t damage yourself. Just be open to you.

- Alex McKeown 

 
 
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What do you think when you hear the term "toxic masculinity"? 

I think toxic masculinity highlights the inherent power that men have regardless of whether they want it or not. From that platform of entitlement, it can be hard to see the plight of others. I say this as an openly gay man who doesn't really get pegged as traditionally feminine. I get told “oh, you’re not too gay—so to me, I find that it’s not just towards females, it’s also men who aren’t really accepted by other men and it’s the power those men have in certain positions that others don’t.

Would it be different if it were called toxic entitlement or does it need to be called toxic masculinity? 

Masculinity opens the door to entitlement so it goes hand-in-hand. Regardless of race or class, it’s the fact that you’re a man and you get away with saying certain things and moving certain ways. I personally think that regardless of the name it would still mean the same thing. 

How are you navigating being a man in our changing world? 

I am finding solace in being by myself. As a Leo, I used to run in big crowds and I used to like noise and tension—and don’t get me wrong, if I’m at a party I’ll still find the stage—but I am now my own best friend. It’s about being comfortable enough to say when I’m not comfortable. A lot of times in both Caribbean culture and male culture, we’re taught that emotion is frowned upon. For years, if I cried we never talked about why I was crying and I was told to “man up.” For me today, it’s okay to cry. I get to the root of what’s happening, and if not for me, then for others. Life isn’t just about individuals, it’s about interactions.

- Akeen Jarrett (A.J.)

 
 
 
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What is the biggest challenge facing gender equality in 2019? 

Men have to start treating women properly and respecting shit that they say. Women are smarter than men. Without women, where the fuck would we be? We’ve got to be real about that.

And as much as men need to respect women, women can’t cancel everybody. There are some slimy-no-good-piece-of-shit-trash-ass-people on this planet but there is a difference between slimy, repeat offenders and somebody who did something wrong and corrected their shit and have done the work to rehabilitate themselves and put themselves out there again in a positive way. You can’t cancel everybody because some of the people you’re canceling are huge voices and right now that’s what we need. We need people to bridge the gaps.

We’re in a time where we say believe the victims, and I’m like, okay, that’s a good way to start but are we actually believing the victims or people who are saying they’re victims? We’re going to have to find a way to figure that out because there is someone else on the other side of that story. Where is the bridge?

It’s a lot, but the biggest thing is being willing to listen. We have to be able to talk and come up with solutions together. Nothing gets done otherwise. We have to fill up a bathtub and have conversations because it matters a lot when we listen to each other.

Me, being a man, I’ve been through so much too. I used to listen to a lot of the fuckery but I’m shaped as I am today, right now, because I stopped listening to society. Society is not a good place. It’s a society that we’re trying to grow away from. We’re in cancel culture. But hold up—hold the fuck up—we need to talk about this. How long does it take to cancel someone? No time. How long does it take to think critically? To learn? It takes time. How much longer are we going to keep doing this shit?

That’s the dangerous part. We’re going to forget how to talk to one another, and then it’s really over. We have to do our job. Canceling people is not the job. We have to be able to have disagreements without disrespect.

- Chris AKA #STAXXXFACTS

 
 
 
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What does "being a man" mean to you?

I think that sentence is super triggering.
I think that we’re in a place with gender, colour, and political beliefs that have been so polarizing, especially in the last decade, and it’s created factions that are making any of the work that we want to do in the other bucket of climate, social justice, food equity, and poverty, extraordinarily difficult because we’re focused on some incredibly important issues, but we’ve taken up sides and teams—whether those be red and blue across the border—and then created leaders within those, and then there’s fighting within those groups. There are so many layers of disconnection that we’re living in right now, and then we look to the other side of that and there are a million species that are at risk tomorrow. So how we get unified on anything is more the challenge. All the other issues will start to work themselves out if we’re in conversation, but if we’re not and we’re fully polarized, then there’s a problem.

When I hear, “male leadership,”  I think male leadership has failed us dismally for a very long time and a lot of that comes out of a couple of core factors. One of those being fear and the other being imposter syndrome. I think people say: oh, “imposter syndrome,” that’s a nice little conversation, but I think it’s a huge energy that comes from this largely dominant white male situation in which we push each other in a really unhealthy way to have it all.

What does it look like to be the man? That statement is completely fucked. How can you be inclusive when the systems are not set up for it? When you say “being a man,” I think of all the people I know who balance feminine and masculine energy in a male form really well. But I also think since we’ve become so aware of gender that when we talk about male and female, it almost feels archaic. There are so many ways to identify yourself now.

To be really frank, I get really excited about the age-out of a lot of leadership that is toxic, male, and doesn’t know how to adapt. The next generation is more aware and, continuing with my ethos of being super hopeful, I think we get to a place that “being a man” isn’t necessarily triggering in a negative way. 

I think if you lead with the intention of being respectful in all of your interactions with humans, you’ll be better off. It’s a very fragile and charged moment in time but if we are kind to each other we’re going to get there.

- Mark Brand

 
 
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How can women include men in the feminist movement?
Invitations. One thing that I’ve found with my friends who label themselves as feminists is that when there are events or discussions happenings, I don't get a call to come participate. And I get that sometimes you just want all-female energy, but I think the more we get men involved in the dialogue, the more it will help the situation. It harkens to making sure female voices are heard in your social settings, and not to pat anyone on the back but let’s say I pull a guy aside who was interrupting a woman and I say something to him, it’s nice to get some feedback as to whether that was appreciated. Not in an ‘omg-thank-you-so-much’ way, but even a head nod. That’s also an invitation, in a way, so I know to keep doing that.

How do speak to other men in your life about women? 

 There is a new artist named TOBi who just released his album. He’s from Toronto. The opening line of one of his songs is:

It’s hard chilling with [n-words] who only talk about women / and never about business / misogynistic until their sisters get involved / then it’s vengeance in the name of feminism, of course

Those lyrics stuck with me because it’s one of those things where I've obviously been in bars and the guys are talking about girls that they’re sleeping with, and there are certain terms, where it’s like, you don’t need to say it like that. We want to hear you talk about the people you’re meeting in your life but don’t do it in a way that demeans them. I’ve checked people on that and have been checked on it myself. I try to be really cognizant of it now. I’ll say I’m seeing a woman. I’ll say I slept over and leave it at that, and not go into details which a lot of guys do, I guess, because a lot of what’s been broadcast in pop culture is that it’s okay to be that way. When you look at porn, the woman is the object and the man is imposing. It happens, it’s done, and then the scene ends. But that’s not how life is. The scene ends and there is still more after that.

- Nabeel Pervaiz

 
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What do you think when you hear the term "toxic masculinity"?
Toxicity poisons conversations and situations but masculinity doesn’t have to be negative. It’s about what you do with it.

How can women include men in the feminist movement?
Not all people see the same thing. On Twitter, when people say mean things—for lack of a better word, but it does feel childish—it’s from a place of their own hurt. A think a lot of the noise comes from the loudest people. I think the majority of the world is on the same page. They understand there needs to be progress and acceptance for different ways of life. It all starts with a conversation. I think it’s the onus of the individual, and as a man, to take notice of how I’m acting and reacting to women. The cool thing about a lot of the men in the gym is that we talk about female fighters like we’re fans because we want to see the best fighters win. Period. I feel obligated to help in any way I can to advocate for equal respect. 

Females weren’t really in the UFC until a few years ago and part of that was because the UFC was looked at like human cockfighting, so there was hesitation to add females in regards to any negative knockouts or fights happening in bloody or violent ways. But Ronda Rousey was able to rise up and people started to understand the worth of her as a fighter and athlete. The cream can rise to the top regardless of gender.

I won The Ultimate Fighter and was the first Canadian to do that. For anyone who doesn’t know, The Ultimate Fighter is essentially Big Brother with punching and kicking.  After a fight, I was icing myself in two different directions and my girlfriend was icing me, and we fell asleep attached to the hip, icing my body. When I have a bad night, she has a bad night. Being a better partner is also my way of understanding women. She’s a human with different needs and it’s not always about me. Communication is very important.

Why did you say yes to this?
On my worst day, I could be flatlined in a fist fight or I could get my hand raised and have this huge weight off my shoulders in terms of all the doubt and questions that definitely happen as a human and as a professional prizefighter. I’m not afraid of the ring, the tub or the conversation. That's how I look at life.

- Elias Theodorou

 
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What is the biggest challenge facing gender equality in 2019?
I think language is a big challenge.
If the foundation of your building is faulty, you’re never going to have a safe place to live. The divisiveness that happens on the internet, which is unfortunately where we take a lot of our social temperatures, is a lot more polarized than when you talk to someone in person. For instance—and this is a conversation I had recently—I mentioned the importance of gender-neutral bathrooms. I have friends who are afraid they are going to get beat up every time they go out. There are people watching them, waiting, and no matter which bathrooms they go into, these people feel like they have a right to step in and be the law and humiliate or harm my friends. It’s an infringement on someone’s pursuit of living and being themselves.

We have to protect each other and be thoughtful. If someone is asking for help, if they were outside your door asking for help, and saying ‘somebody is hurting me, will you let me in?’ would you say, well I’m not the one hurting you? That’s really what’s happening on so many levels. Just stop and listen. Open the door. The thing that you think is offending you or attacking you personally, is someone asking you for help—or at the very least empathy and kindness.

What in your life has had a profound impact on the way you behave?
I’m trying to think of a moment but all I can think of is my mother. Her strength and compassion; her soul. When someone tells me that she’s “the other,” that’s just bullshit to me. I think, as a man, I strive to be her.

- Ricardo Temporao

 
 
 
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What does "being a man" mean to you? 

As an indigenous man, I understand racism and colonial oppression, but because I’m a man within this society, I also benefit through misogyny that white people get through racism. There is a specific situation where I finally grasped that racism and misogyny are the same tools but they are used to oppress different people. It’s compounded. Black women experience twice the racism and misogyny than I do as an indigenous man. It’s coming to those realizations of how arbitrary gender roles are.

Everything goes back to capitalism, which is about control. As for gender roles, if you think of baking, it is seen as a woman’s activity until it’s a vocation and money is involved. A baker we see as a man within our society. Cleaning is a woman’s job but a custodian is seen as a man’s job. As soon as money and capitalism are brought into it, the focus changes. The gender norms and binary is complete bullshit. It’s made up and it’s wrong.

I started questioning: if my wife builds a house but uses pink tools where does she sit on your gender, feminine/masculine scale? If I watch wrestling while drinking rosé and wearing pumps, where do I fit? As you grow, you start realizing these different things.

What I’m learning now, is that everything is fluid. There are no definitions, there are only explanations. Women are water carriers and men are fire keepers, but if a man is thirsty he'll get his own water and if a woman is cold she’ll make her own fire.

How do speak to other men in your life about women? 

It comes up more often than it used to, which is really interesting. Within the last four years, men seem to be a little more sensitive to privileges and getting checked. The Me-Too movement was a huge wake-up call for a lot of men. And not just the blatant black-and-white sexual assault, but that Aziz Ansari situation where it was this weird line, and all men, all of a sudden, are awakening to like, ‘wow, we were really shitty.’ And men are confronted with all the shitty things they've done for the first time. We’ve never been held accountable. Every single problem on this planet has to do with a lack of accountability. Men not being held accountable for the violence and emotional abuse. I’m still problematic. We’re all still figuring it out and no one can do this perfectly, but as long as we start being more empathetic and having these conversations and opening up and talking about privilege and the benefactors of it, we’ll get to a better place.  

- Ian Campeau

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What does "being a man" mean to you? 

It’s an intimidating question. I can only speak as a white male who was born here and has my experiences, but for me, being a man has always been about strength. I don’t know if I even got to choose that but that’s what the message has always been. I don’t say that from a place of pride. Even the ice is an example of this incessant need to be like: I AM STRONG.

Right. You wanted to fill the tub with ice because you would be withstanding an ice bath but you had to surrender to a bubble bath?

It’s part of it. The other part is that I’m an entrepreneur and I’m a marketer and I don’t want to do what everyone else is doing, and then also the beautiful piece about ice being an important part of my journey.

Can you tell me why ice has been important? 

I think as a white male today, there are a lot of things that need to happen to us and from us that are very uncomfortable, and I think part of the masculine journey is getting comfortable with being uncomfortable. One of the best ways is to get men to jump in an ice hole in the lake. Giving up power is incredibly uncomfortable. The type of conversations that need to happen with women and people of colour is very uncomfortable. I think the instinct is to feel like you've done something wrong. 

I’m so intrigued by something you just said, that it’s uncomfortable to give up power. What does that mean? 

I feel like I know how to get power, so to consciously not choose that is uncomfortable. It almost feels like I’m programmed to seek power, to be in a power position, and to hold that position.  


How are you navigating being a man right now?
 

Listening. That’s the first thing. The second piece is acknowledgment, which is super challenging and requires courage. There is a fear for a lot of men. All of a sudden if you acknowledge it, you can’t pretend there is no inequality. The third piece, which is the hardest and most important, is figuring out how to take action. You listen, acknowledge, then take action—but how do you do that? It can feel like action, misstep, action, misstep. You can’t be afraid to fail. To mess up. To be ridiculed. When I told a buddy of mine that I was doing this, he said: that’s a high-risk scenario for you because there’s a lens that is going to be applied to you that is very, very critical. So—good for you! And I was like...shit. But here I am.

- Steve Ballantyne

 
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What does "being a man" mean to you? 

I was raised Christian and Jamaican. Masculinity wasn’t necessarily at the forefront of the way I was raised but it was definitely an undertone, like, as long as you don’t do anything girly or act too girly then there would be no problem.

Knowing a bit more about myself now, and seeing other people go through different experiences, has opened my eyes and assured what I already knew, that it’s all how you perceive yourself. My upbringing was very strict and religious but I made sure I didn’t let that define how I saw the world or people from different walks of life.  


What in your life has had a profound impact on the way you behave? 

It’s going to sound so weird but there is a podcast I started listening to maybe four years ago and it’s called The Read, hosted by two black, queer individuals. They rant and vent every week about the struggles of being black and gay, but also the triumphs. Kid Fury, one of the hosts, is one of the bigger reasons for me coming out because he made me feel like it was okay to be different—and he was raised Christian and Jamaican too. The person I am today, I owe a lot of it to Kid Fury, which might be weird because I’ve never met him but he helped me accept who I was.  

Why did you say yes to doing this? 

I have never done anything like this before. A wave of fear took over me on my way here. I never take my shirt off—ever. Even when I go to pools, I’m the one wearing the black t-shirt. I used to be so—and I’m speaking in past tense because I guess after this I’m not going to be as shy, but I used to be so self-conscious about my weight. I didn’t feel comfortable in my own skin. I said yes because it’s super outside my comfort zone. Even on my way here, I’m on the highway and thinking maybe I could say I got sick or something. But I’m very happy that I came. I also low-key wanted to work with Jah.

- Nathan Sitcheron

 
 
 
 
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What does "being a man" mean to you? 

My mom raised me so she was the father figure in my life as well as the mother figure. She taught me how to be a man. I wasn’t close with my dad until much older. My mom taught me that being a man is the same as being a woman. It’s being true to yourself, being respectful, empathetic, and having good moral hygiene. It’s about understanding and perspective.

How can women include men in the feminist movement?
Educate your allies. Just because they’re on your side, doesn’t mean they’re saying the right things yet. We have to be looking for knowledge so we can come to a common understanding. We can’t face the battle if everyone is fighting it differently. We need to have the same message if it’s going to be heard.

How do speak to other men in your life about women?

The men in my life are generally on the same page as I am. We don’t speak disrespectfully. We have in the past and we don’t anymore. There has been growth. My friends and I actually sit and have long conversations, like four or five hours at a time. A lot of it is just about how we’re feeling, something we did and how we felt about it, and that ends up coming around to our relationships with the women in our lives. It feels healthy just to talk about it because that’s new. It’s not something that men have been known to do. It’s good. Men need to be having these conversations with men, as well. It’s everybody’s duty.
What do you think that would change? 

Well, the conversation would be happening more frequently and that makes it feel more upfront. It becomes something that needs to be dealt with. More conversation creates more understanding between both sides; all sides.

Why did you say yes to this?
It’s a conversation that needs to be had and I don’t always know how to take part in it.  

Have you felt excluded in the past? Does the word feminism imply that you’re not welcome? 

No. I’m sure there are people who use it to justify feeling that way but when I think feminism, I just think misunderstood; wholly misunderstood. I don’t feel excluded. In fact, we’re supposed to take a step back and be allies. We’re not supposed to be at the forefront.
So is the way in which you live your life how you’re an ally?  

I hope so. Living life openly, with open ears, listening to what’s being told, and open arms. Accepting the challenge. This conversation is a challenge but it’s one I need to face.  

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I keep forgetting that I’m naked in a bathtub and look down and realize, right, everyone else isn’t.

-Terrell Morris

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How do speak to other men in your life about women? 

I don't know if there's ever been a time when I've sat down with a group of guys and we’ve spoken about feminism in any direct manner. We’re all artists and we work with females all the time so there is just a level of respect that goes across the board. 

I tend to disassociate myself with anyone who doesn’t respect women. I do come across them. Sometimes, it’s a tough thing. Sometimes you want to say something. I've been on the edge where I want to say ‘that’s ridiculous’ or ‘you don't need to do that bro, you don’t need to show me you’re the man by saying all this shit.’ But I keep my mouth shut and sometimes I wonder, especially now that I have a daughter, should I be saying something to these guys? Should I be saying something even if it's to the detriment of my career in some sort of way? I don’t know who these guys know. They could be powerful people. I’ve seen guys with big money and big egos, and I’ve seen what they can do when they get upset. Ever since my daughter was born though, it’s been like...do I call people out? I don’t know the answer but I keep wondering, should I?

-Sean Jones

 

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Graphic Design: Joshua Seinen
Interviews: Nicolle Hodges
Hotel Sponsorship (AKA the most beautiful bath tub!): Bisha Toronto
Second shoot location: Casa Loma
Beer Sponsorship: Pabst Blue Ribbon

Men Who Take Baths was produced by Girls Who Say Fuck in the city of Toronto, in the province of Ontario, in the country of Canada, on planet earth in the year 2019.

This project would not have been possible without the help of countless people who dedicated their time, talents, and energy—seriously, you taught me about trust and community in ways that have changed my life. Thank you to every person who said FUCK YES to getting in the bath. Thank you for believing in this conversation and the importance of seeking to understand one another as we advocate for equality. Together, we rise.

If you would like to sponsor the Men Who Take Baths movement and bring this project to your city, contact: nicollehodges@gmail.com